Facing Rejection | When You Failed Your Job Interview

The email came weeks ago. I was laying in my futon bed, listening to zither music that I recently love thanks from reading a lot of Chinese novels and after login into my email account I saw it.

My dark future.

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Can you hear it? The sound of my heart breaking into pieces

FACING REJECTION | WHEN YOU FAILED YOUR JOB INTERVIEW

I imagine that I would accept the rejection with a grace and nonchalant attitude but it seems like I overestimate my resistance towards rejection. Being rejected does not feel nice. It left me feeling bitter that I don’t have any mood to continue blogging or writing anything.

Loser.

Nah, of course, I’m not.

I have this mentality that whenever I did something like job interviews or entering a competition, as long as I gain valuable lessons and experiences from it,

it’s my win.

Lessons learned:

IT’S OKAY TO FEEL HURT BUT IT’S NOT OKAY TO GIVE UP

When you failed your job interview, your self-esteem is going to take a hit and it is so easy to wallow in self-pity and thinking that ‘Oh, how useless I am’ because I felt it too.

When I was rejected, I felt like I, as a person was not good enough.

But of course, it is not true. The interviewer only rejected you because they felt that you didn’t suit the job or they have a better candidate. So chin up yo.

LOWER YOUR EXPECTATION

Either it is in relationships, exam results or competitions, it is better to not have any expectation at all.

Because it’s useless.

It is useless to expect something from the things you cannot control in the first place. But hey I’m not saying that you should do things half-assed. Work hard and if things are not going well just continue working harder. The only person that you could put your expectation is yourself, okay?

If you expect nothing from somebody you are never disappointed.”

― Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

IT’S CLICHE BUT PRACTICES MAKE PERFECT

After the interview ended, I started to regret not practising my key points more. I have always known that communication skills are my weak spot and my deadpanned facial expressions and emotionless voice tone certainly didn’t help winning points from the interviewer.

AS ONE DOOR CLOSES ANOTHER ONE OPENS

There are obviously 10000+jobs out there waiting for me to apply lol.

Generally, I am a realist optimist person so rejection didn’t hurt me much.

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Kot.

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30 comments

  1. Sometimes I feel hard to say should I have expectations or not. If I have expectations, I can’t differentiate if they are too high or not. And if no expectations, it feels like I don’t have life goals T___T

    Scary life.

    1. I could totally understand that. Personally, I find that I’m more motivated when I have clear goals of what I want to do. And for expectations, I just thought that I would less likely get hurt if I don’t have one lol

  2. is this that intern-ish job in Japan? i totally got lost with any updates huh. this is a good wake up post after being rejected and oh how i hope i wouldn’t feel hurt but alas i still do. btw, i always know not to put expectation but it is so damn hard but this sentence – “it is useless to expect something from the things you cannot control in the first place” is going to be my mantra now. thanks for that!

    1. Yep. You’re one sharp lady xD. I totally get it. It’s hard to not put up an expectation but I tried my best to not put one tho. Being rejected sucks but at least we can learn something from it. I now, consider all the job interviews I’m attending to is a p place where I practice my interpersonal skills lol.

      1. Hahahaha, I used to have that same mindset too! Was going to get myself some interviews so that I can get the vibes and stuff. Didn’t get any though. LOL.

        1. Man, it’s so hard to stay positive after being rejected for all the jobs applied. I hope you can get one offer sooner. Let’s pray xD

  3. All the points are true . Nadia pun pernah jugak rasa rejection of work tapi kita tak boleh give up .

    Maybe bukan rezeki kita utk company yg kita nak tue. Pasti ada rezeki lain yg terbaik utk Rasya nnt .

    Insyaallah . Don’t give up dear . <3

  4. I agree with you Rasya.
    I have faced this rejection before and I was so f***ed up that time. It felts like I am dying!!! But, the next day, I healed. I even became much more stronger. And that was when I said to myself, “it’s okay, there is plenty of job will going to suits you. ” And yeap.

    And the most important thing is, rezeki Allah tu luas. 🙂 Teruskan mencari 🙂

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  5. Good luck finding your dream job Rasya. There will be a thousand more doors need to be opened. 😀 Rasya, I already posted ACOWAR book review and please do read it. 😀

    1. InshaAllah, ada rezeki 🙂 I have read it but I don’t know, maybe YA is not my cup of tea? I plan to read the first book first so we’ll see how it goes hahaha

  6. I failed a job interview before and yeah it affected my self-esteem, feeling hopeless like ‘nobody wants to hire meh *criesariver’ but turns out I got accepted into other company so yeap, don’t give up and you will stumble upon another chance.
    ‘Lower your expectation’ I, on the other hand, believe that I should put a higher expectation so that I’ll get the best result even if I don’t achieve what I expected to get. But I guess, a job application can’t use this mindset, lol.
    Anyway cheer up Rasya, wish you all the best for your job hunting and get the job you dream of! Don’t forget to blog about it once you get it 🙂

    1. Actually, your mindset is exactly the same as mine before the rejection letters piling up lol. Thank you and I’ll try my best xD

  7. lower your expectation is good frankly speaking, yet it’s good to have a little hope what! :’) My lecturer used to tell us how whenever she had an interview she would (somehow) hypnotized herself by saying ‘I’m gonna get this job.’

    I’m sure, there would be a better place for you Rasya! After all, “AS ONE DOOR CLOSES ANOTHER ONE OPENS”. 😀

  8. dont give up rasya! saya pun dah banyak kali fail interview. yg fail semua interview kerja kerajaan hahaa. it’s okay. mungkin rezeki rasya bkn disitu. mana tau tempat lain ada yg lebih bgs lagi dari tu kan? hiks. chayok chayok. keep up the positive spirit! <3

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