Once Upon A Time, Malaysia

Sometimes being the eldest is not so bad.

I used to hate being the eldest. Scratch hate. I detest it.

Being the eldest comes with a great responsibility. My parents would expect just the best from me nothing less than an A when it comes to school grades and frankly speaking, those expectations wore me down sometimes.

Well, not anymore.

Growing up and maturing a little bit I can see that being the eldest helped me shaped my personality and of course, the advantages of being the first born is not something that I could deny.

Being the eldest has its perks.

1. Parents out, big sister ineldest perks

If my parents were outside (working etc), the one who rules the house is me. For start, the remote control is in my hand, the privilege of sitting in the comfiest and strategic couch near the tv is mine and of course,

eldest perks2. Ordering the younger ones around

I couldn’t imagine the situation where I’d have a brother/sister ordering me around to do chores. Just thinking about it makes my skin crawl. .

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3. The winner is always moi

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4. Hand me downs what?

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I could think of many more advantages but I’m so lazy right now so maybe you guys could add some.

Here my mandatory pleading puppy eyes emoji, I mean gif

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Not so smart INTJ. Love books. 3rd Year in Japanese Language and Linguistic. English is not her forte.


  1. Gosh! Nasib badan aku ni ni bukan anak sulung, nor anak bongsu. Jadi anak ke-4 tak pernah ada kelebihan apa-apa hahahahah

  2. I’m the eldest too kak Rasya! Heheeee ^_^ but, what the most thing that worries me was my results and definitely I’m not the one in my siblings yang selalu got good result (bukan selalu but ada juga)..champion tu champion ni and etc…duh -,- but yeah I admit that sometimes being the eldest is not so bad..sebab I’m the one who controlling everything muahahaa *evil laughs* and I’m extremely happy that I’m the only girl in my siblings yeaaaayyy! :v so that, everyone in my whole family will appreciate me! well,not everyone dilahirkan sempurna kan Kak Rasya? As long as kita jangan give then there’s always a chance. :’)))

    • Rasya

      Omg, the only girl in the family. *minus your mum of course*

      yeah, being the eldest is hard when it comes to the unrealistic expectation to do well in practically everything just because I need to set an example to my other siblings.

      Don’t give up too syara!

  3. i’m the youngest one! hahahaha. semua kedudukan adik beradik ada baik buruknya. cth macam anak bongsu. yaaa, when our parents getting old. they would find the youngest okay. because the eldest will busy with him/her kids 😂

  4. Well yeah, being the eldest have many perks, I can agree (seeing how my older sister gets many things first). But getting that also means carrying a huge responsibility to achieve what our parents expected of course. I’m the middle child and I feel like I used to suffer the middle-child syndrome lol (have you heard about it?). As much as I’m jealous with my older sister being showered with attention, and my youngest sister getting almost everything she wanted, I don’t think I’d change my spot now. I learned a lot being the middle child 🙂

    • Rasya

      I knew about the middle child syndrome. I think my sister is now suffering from the same syndrome. I think in your case because your siblings are all girls the MCS affects you more since being the same gender and all. Like my second brother don’t have MCS because he was a he.

  5. Waa, advantages of being eldest, good for you,
    but remember, when anything happen during your parent outside house,
    you will be the first person to face them during interrogation session, hehe

  6. Eyja anak tunggal so takde rasa boleh suruh ambik itu ini. Hahahahahahahahaha (gelak panjang sebab sedih).

    Tapi adik beradik ipar adalah, so feeling mengarah tu adalah, dapatlah merasa.. Heheheh.

  7. my eldest brother never did something like that; he never ordered us younger siblings around to do this and that 😛 i like being the younger one (although not the youngest).

    • Rasya

      your brother reminds me of my friend’s brother. He’s like so kind *according to my friend* and would always try to help their siblings but on the other hand, the second born ‘the eldest sister’ is so scary lol.

  8. Anak tunggal pun samaaaaa macam the eldest (bila balik kampung ramai-ramai dengan cousins kenit berderet). Bhahahahaha 😝💪

    • Rasya

      bila jumpa cousin meriah kan kumpul ramai-ramai. lamanya tak balik kampung. semua dah besar berkahwin dan bearank pinak hahaha

  9. I’m eldest in the family too and eldest is the queen! hihi
    Oh and also to add more, always dapat duit raya lebih sikit dari adik-adik hehe :p
    cuma being the eldest ni selalu sangat kena buat house chores T_T

    • Rasya

      Uuuu. betul-betul. sebab kita paling tua of course duit raya kita paling banyak

  10. Since i’m the youngest in my family, being the youngest is awesome! hahahaha
    but I would love to have younger sisters/brothers. Sobs its too late.

    • Rasya

      Uuu. The youngest in my family also want to have a little bro/sis but we’re like

      ‘no, thank you’

      • Gosh Rasyaaa, kenapa jujur sangat ni, kahkahkah.

        Yes, tapi kadang2 rasa, Ya Allah terima kasih sebab ramai adik, terutamanya bila nak tidur dan selesa atas katil tapi lupa tutup lampu. You know what i mean, kehkehkeh.

  11. I dont have any siblings so no advantages I can offer. hahaha. but seeing you post im sure you have a great time as the elder. lol.

    • Rasya

      oh wow! you’re the only child? isn’t that great, no fighting over food hahaha

  12. I’m the eldest too, but most of the time I don’t get these advantages because I’m the only girl among my sibling🙃

  13. im legit have a draft about ‘the perks of having siblings’ that im gonna continue to write maybe soon. LOL the coincidence. hahhahaa

    im used to hate being the eldest because im always forced to give in when arguing/fighting over something when im younger and my siblings even younger. BUT now, the power in my hands. HAHAHHAHA

    im the eldest, so im totally agreed with this.

    • Rasya

      great minds think alike xD

      I could relate. most of the time, I need to give in because I’m the eldest

  14. Agree with all your statement. And other adv being eldest “my thing is mine and your thing is mine” hahahahaha

    • Rasya

      lol so true. but my siblings especially my sister loves to wear my stuff too

  15. Jadi anak sulung yang best nya sebab boleh arah adik-adik buat kerja. Kalau adik suruh kita buat kerja macam pelik pulak. Hehe 😂

  16. From my personal experience, parents love the eldest the MOST. He/she is the first child and everything, every feeling is the first one for the parents. Yes, parents may have high expectation but they also feel guilty towards the first child as they don’t have much experience to deal with their own children. T_T

  17. okay, since you came out with this benefit of being the eldest, I as the youngest in my family should come out with something to defend this.. hahahaha

  18. Baru tahu rasya kakak sulung, sesuailah orang expect more kan 😊 but shaf ni anak ketiga but selalu feel orang expect more kat diri (and i admit its make me down sometime).

    Add point : org duk tunggu bila nak kawen dan bila kawen mesti meriah gila kan. Hihi just my viewla.

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